Advice? What am I talking about? Who am I to give advice? Just someone who has gone through this situation and has been disappointed quite a few times.
Wait, what situation?
Let me explain.
But in order to do that, we need to go back about 5 years.
So picture this...I'm 13 years old. I'm in my room. And I have a CD on; bobbing my head and screaming at the top of my lungs.
Any guesses on who I'm listening to? If you know me even a little bit, you'd probably guess The Jonas Brothers.
And you'd be right.
I was 13 when I first heard about the Jonas Brothers. It didn't take me very long to really get into their music and to want to know more about them. When I found out they were Christians, I was ECSTATIC! I can't even explain.
I think the reason I liked that so much was because, since they believed like I did, I thought maybe - oh, just maybe - I could end up marrying one of them. Mostly because I knew there weren't a lot of Christian girls in Hollywood, and they'd probably have to go outside of Hollywood to find a girl.
And I was outside of Hollywood. And a Christian.
I L.O.V.E.D. the Jonas Brothers. Too much, really.
I idolized them. I had hundreds of pictures of them on my computer. I had posters on my wall. All their CDs on my iPod.
So now that you know all of that about me....I'm going to say something about what I've learned from this experience.
First off, you can't expect the people in Hollywood to be perfect. They are going to make mistakes. They are going to get ripped apart because they're in the spotlight 24/7. They aren't perfect, therefore, we have no reason to idolize them.
They are normal people just like you and me. Well, maybe not normal, but you get the point.
I'm not going to lie. I have been disappointed by the three guys that I looked up to more than anyone in the world. I'm only going to touch on why, because being judgmental is something that I need to work on, and I don't want anyone to think I am that way.
One thing that I will touch on, because it REALLY made me disappointed, was Joe's explicit song on his album, Fastlife. I'm still trying to understand this one. How can a professing Christian have an EXPLICIT song on his album? I really don't understand this, and truthfully, I don't think I want to.
Call idolizing what you want: obsession, love. But I think it's just that: idolizing. I used to say I had OJD : Obsessive Jonas Disorder. What the heck was I thinking? Looking back, I realize I was stupid.
As Christians, we need to realize that obsessing over anything but the Lord, and his plan for our lives, is dumb. Plus, we're just going to watch the people that we idolize fall and that will only cause disappointment and anger for the person.
So I don't know. Maybe it's a lesson that every teenager has to learn - to hold someone up on a pedestal and slowly watch them fall. Maybe it's God's way of showing us that they're human and they're going to make mistakes.
My advice to you is: if you're a Christian, prove it. Don't just say it, because talk is cheap. Show people through you ACTIONS that you're a Christian. It's the only way for them to truly know that you are.
Like Blimey cow has said, "If I spend a whole day with you, and I don't know that you're a Christian, you're doing it wrong."